I’ve been doing a bout of soul-searching. Seemed appropriate in my 40th year. One of the things I’ve realized is how much I like to live in the “possible”.
Do you ever think “wouldn’t it be nice if this is what my life looked like”? For instance- owning your own business, buying your dream house, finding your soul mate, traveling more, etc. I think everyone can say there is something that fills our hearts with happiness, but that seems like it will always be out of our reach.
To be fair, I’ve achieved a lot of the things I wanted out of life. I did find my soul mate. I have my children, my pets, and a house that I truly love (even if it’s on the small side). I have a job I don’t hate, and tons of hobbies that keep me very busy when I happen to have free time. I also have a great group of friends.
There are even dreams that I’ve realized- even if not in the way I thought I would. I published a novel. It may have been self-published- and I certainly didn’t make any money off it- but it was still a dream I fulfilled.
Even still…there’s always a yearning. Something you feel will never be attainable.
For me, that’s several things. In my hypothetical world, I’d own a boutique, where I’d sell my own jewelry designs, as well as things I love. I would have a house that’s slightly bigger than the one I currently have, but it would have loads of charm and character, good bones, and details. I would be able to afford good furniture that reflected the lifestyle I want to live. I would have a landscaped garden and nice patio furniture where I could laze away a weekend while my children ran around. I would make trips to the farmers markets and whole foods grocery stores (where I could afford the healthy, organic food). We would travel at least once a year, to someplace new and exciting. We would have the space and money to be able to foster children who need a home, and take in more pets.
These might sound frivolous and even small to some, but it’s my hypothetical life. It reflects who I am now (my perspective) and who I’d like to be.
What I would like to work towards is making this hypothetical life a reality. How do you push through the doubt and fear and really go for it?
I don’t have the answer yet, but I do know it takes a lot of self-work. It takes a lot of planning, but also forward-momentum.
Are you stuck somewhere and don’t know how to move towards your “hypothetical goals”?